Tomorrow will mark a new year. We've had a great month with Kim and Lee and this is the last part of our conversation. Kim, looking back at this last year what do you see as God’s greatest revelation to you?
That He really is God with Us, Emmanuel. As I have had to trust that He goes before and behind my boys when they are not with me and have recently had to help my 11 year old believe that even when he’s in “less than ideal” environments, God is with him now that he’s going with his dad solo.
Is there any new vision for 2009 burning in your heart for you or your family?
I’ve never been very good at setting goals or new year’s resolutions…. But, I hope that this year will be a year of rest for us. Not necessarily from all of our activities, but we had a rough 2008 due to some legal action we were involved in with my boys’ dad, so I’m really hoping we can have more peace/less stress in our home this year.
Lee, how about you? Any resolutions you'd like to share with us?
To create more “space” in my life that allows me to give more of my time to people.
Being on the other side now, having remarried and having one beautiful child, what would you want those going through those initial moments of divorce to know is on the other side of that immense place of pain?
Life will be different in the future even though you cannot currently see outside of your pain. There were some days that I thought that nothing would ever change. The loneliness and hurt that I felt would never end. The thought of never having the capacity of loving a significant other again and them loving me back equally entered my mind frequently. Eventually, if you move into your pain, deal with it, and allow God to comfort you, to heal your woundedness, you will come out on the other side a stronger person, more grateful for your relationships, and also have a deeper sense of purpose. I’m not speaking from religion or a hypothetical situation, but from my true experience