Ken, Nate said something this week that was strong and I’m sure made a lot of readers, both men and women stop and take note of their own lives. “The over bearing woman and passive man syndrome has GOT TO STOP! I want to see these quiet men give security to their wives, and stop letting them run the show because they cannot find themselves. Seriously, very passionate about this!” What is the best way to engage this pattern?
Men can best engage the pattern of passivity by dealing with their avoidance and learning to live out of their masculine strength. Men often live paralyzed by doubt and fear. They question, in the words of John Eldredge, “Do I have what it takes?” This question requires us to take risk to find out what we’re made of…this thought keeps many men from moving. It’s a struggle of spirit not body or mind. Women on the other hand, need to reject the idea that control is the pathway to safety. Once again fear takes hold and the conclusion becomes, “I must do it myself.” In both cases dependency in God is the answer. Will we allow room in our lives to let God move teaching us about Him and ourselves in the process?
Here are a few book I recommend as well in helping with these patterns.
The Silence of Adam - Larry Crabb
Wild at Heart – John Aldridge
The Allure of Hope – Jan Meyers
Ken Edwards is a graduate of the University of Arkansas and has earned a Master of Divinity, Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Counseling and a Master of Arts in Religious Education of Southwestern Seminary. But his discernment matches his education and for me often the greater gift. He lives with his wife Janet and three children in Franklin, Tennessee. And this is him enjoying what he loves, the mountains in Wyoming. Except he's usually behind the camera. And he has been kind enough to spend Friday’s with us. What he is offering us regarding his time is a gift. I hope we will take advantage of it.
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